


Wow - one month ago today was our adoption board meeting in Thailand, and it seems like it was forever ago! It feels like Abe has always been a part of our family. He hasn't met a stranger since we have been home, and his infectious smile catches every one's heart. I haven't been as diligent with keeping the blog updated, but I promised myself that once school was out I would do my best to back up and add things that have been happening with the newly expanded Gaskins family so far. So, if we have talked to you since we have been home, you may have heard some of this already... however, please indulge me as I walk down memory lane and put some details down on paper. :)
We were supposed to leave Matt's family in Tulsa, OK on Wednesday, May 19 at 11:30 a.m. to Memphis, and home to Knoxville by 4:30 p.m. - didn't work out that way. We woke up Wednesday morning to some pretty rough weather. It was dark outside when we woke up, and there were severe storms in the area. I kept watching the weather channel... watching the clock... watching the weather channel... wondering if we would get out of Tulsa and headed home before the storms moved in. Well, before we left for the airport and was saying our goodbyes, I decided to check online with Delta to be sure our flight wasn't delayed. It wasn't delayed - it was CANCELED! Mother nature - score 1, Gaskins - score 0. I called Delta and the very nice lady told me that we were already reconfirmed on a different flight leaving Tulsa at 12:45 p.m. - but a layover in Atlanta instead of Memphis, and Knoxville at 6:40 p.m. instead of 4:30 p.m. Atlanta AGAIN??? As much as I had tried to avoid the Atlanta airport on this trip, twice on our return flights home that is exactly where we were headed! Oh well, at least we would be home this afternoon I kept telling myself, so everything would be all right. Mother nature - 1, Gaskins 1 - tie game. :)
Saying good-bye to family is never easy, but we are so glad we spent time in Tulsa before heading home. Other than spending some much-needed time with Dan, Pat, and Pop, these few days provided Matt and myself a nice transition into the real world with our new son. We didn't have to worry with day-to-day schedules, errands, work, bills, etc. - we just focused on getting to know each other better, and these are memories that I will cherish forever. Simple things like walking to the neighborhood playground with Abe to play and Matt putting Abe up on his shoulders for the first time...discovering Abe does not like ice cream... all three of us laying wide awake in our bedroom at 3:00 a.m. as we recovered from our jet lag... Abe laying quietly in the floor making shadows on the wall from the night light... Matt and I watching a Third Watch DVD... until finally I realized that if we are all awake, let's make the most of it! I motioned for Abe to get in bed with us and we played a little, discovered he is ticklish, played the D.S. a little, and had a lot of fun like three kids at a slumber party! That night will live in my heart as one of the most special times I can remember - because I was so at peace with everything, and all seemed right with the world.
After some tears and hugs at the airport, we told Dan and Pat bye and we were on our way. Tulsa airport has the new body image scanners that are part of the additional security screening being added to airports around the country. I was first in line, then Abe, then Matt. You go into a booth-like area and there are yellow tape marks where your feet are supposed to go. I went through, and Abe, not knowing what I was doing, followed right behind me. He walked right on through, and I was about to stop him when the security person stepped in. She tried telling him what to do, and I told her that he wasn't going to understand her because he didn't understand English too well. So she told me to "talk to him in his language" and I told her I didn't know his language - we just adopted him! You know, the things some people say (hopefully just without thinking instead of just being dumb). Next it was Matt's turn, and Abe got a kick out of seeing him in the booth. Matt was acting a little silly, imagine that, and the officer didn't take too well to that and pulled him aside and ran the security wand over him - ha ha.
Because our flights were all messed up from leaving Bangkok early and the rescheduled flight due to the weather, none of the three of our seats were located together on the airplane, but thankfully there were some nice people that switched with us so that at least Abe and I sat together and Matt was across the aisle. As had become normal for us now, we held hands as we took off - was this for Abe or for me??? We landed in Atlanta with just enough time for a trip to the bathroom and a quick bite to eat for the eating machine - Abe, not Matt. :)
The flight from Atlanta was a whole 26 minutes in the air. The only time Abe seemed remotely interested or concerned about our flights or flying in general was when the landing gear went down on this flight. We must have been sitting right above the gear because it made a really loud noise, and he looked at me with a little bit of fear in his eyes. I grabbed his hand and said "okay" - about the only thing he could understand, and then he was fine and went back to looking out the window at the ground getting closer and closer to us. It didn't seem real that we would soon be back in familiar Tennessee with our family and friends. I was so excited to see everyone, and we were also very tired - tired of traveling for sure. After we landed, I showed Abe his Family Tree Book that I had made for him so that faces would be somewhat familiar to him as we were greeting family - he loves saying Julia's name - I'm not sure why.
McGhee Tyson airport is like most, no one is allowed in the secured area without a boarding pass, so everyone had to wait in the concourse just outside the revolving door. I had expected to see all of my family, which is not a small family by any means, but then as we came through and we were all gathering together and hugging and smiling and taking pictures, the scene enveloped the whole concourse and people we didn't even know stopped to watch and become a part of this memory with my family. There were hats and posters and all things red, white, and blue, and it was amazing. We were so happy to be home!
We rode with Alice and Floyd, and our luggage was with Mom and Dad... lots of people and lots of suitcases. I guess I fell asleep somewhere between Pellissippi Parkway and Oak Ridge because I woke up with Alice pulling into the parking lot at my school - Norwood Elementary. I looked around for cars that I might recognize, but the parking lot was empty. I asked Alice what in the world are we doing here?? She said she was told to stop by for a moment, and then I saw it... the school sign had one of the best things written on in - "Welcome Norwood's Newest Jaguar - Abe Gaskins". It was so cool! Abe can recognize his English name, so I wanted him to see it. We all piled out and went to the sign -what a great picture and what a great memory!
When we got home, our house was decorated, our cars were decorated, the mailbox was decorated, all banners, streamers, balloons - red, white, and blue! I had sent Abe pictures of our house, so he immediately knew where we were - he smiled and said "Smokey" - one of our dog's names... (too bad she was still at the kennel). The outside of our house was nothing compared to the inside. Alice and the girls (and Judy) did a great job making everything festive and welcoming for all three of us. We all visited, Abe looked around his new home - and loved his room, shared some stories and lots of hugs, then it was time for everyone to leave and for us to get some sleep in our own bed. We wondered if Abe would want to sleep in his room all alone after sharing a room with 20+ boys and sharing our room in Oklahoma... but he changed into his pajamas, hugged us both goodnight, and went to bed and right to sleep. God is so good.